Birthdays and Aging: Do they make you happy or sad?
Posted by Catherine Morgan on September 25, 2007
Birthdays and Aging — by Catherine Morgan (cross-posted at BlogHer)
Every twelve months or so we all go through it, that time of year that some of us may loath and others may love…Yes, I’m talking about the “B” word. How do you feel on that one day a year? Are you happy? Depressed? Angry? Ambivalent? All of the above? Is every year different? Are some numbers easier to reach than others?
If it’s possible to be bi-polar when it comes to your birthday, then that’s my diagnosis. Sometimes I’m happy, sometimes I’m sad, sometimes I feel like I’m getting more mature, and sometimes I just feel like I’m getting more old. I imagine I’m not the only birthday girl that feels this way at times, so I thought we could take some time to examine the emotional side of birthdays and getting older.
It seems like only yesterday I was watching a show called “thirty something” on television, and thinking that thirty was seriously over the hill. I couldn’t even imagine ever being thirty, let alone” in” my thirties. OMG, now I long for the over the hill days of thirty something. Somehow my thirty somethings have gotten behind me, and I’ve been catapulted into my “forty somethings“. And we all know what happens next, the “fifty somethings”, the “sixty somethings”, and I don’t know about you…but ten years seems to go by in a blink of an eye. Back in the “olden days” when I was in second grade, it seemed to take forever to get through just one year, I thought I would never get to twelfth grade back then. Now I’m out of the “grades” and into the “somethings”, who’d of thought?
What other bloggers think about aging…
One of the amazing things about growing old is that one so often doesn’t feel old. When I was young, old was so far away that it seemed like something I would never be. And now that I am getting old, the surprise is how different old feels from the way it looked when I was young.
I’m sorry to say that the pleasures of old age have been vastly over-rated;
It’s just some hype defenders of the geriatric generation have purposely created.
Fellow BlogHer contributing editor Zandria just did a post on turning 30 . . .
Many females — especially if they’re single and don’t want to be, or they’re in a relationship where they don’t know where things are going, or if they haven’t accomplished something in particular they wanted to do — look at the prospect of turning 30 and think they should have done something…bigger…than what they have. It’s a big turning point; when you enter your 20s from your teens, it’s usually not considered a big deal. But going from your 20s to your 30s — now, that’s a different story.
Staying healthy and aging…
The next time you hear someone blame their poor health on “getting older”, let’s gently educate them on the finer aspects of aging. They just don’t know better.
Once characterized by angst and risky behavior, midlife now is believed by some experts to be the happiest time of adult life. “From age 30 to 50, life only gets better and better,” said Ron Kessler, professor of health care policy at Harvard Medical School. “These are the best years of their lives.”
Chatting with your friends is a good way to reduce stress. It’s fun, you often smile, and having and talking to friends is good for whatever most ails you…including stress.
Who ever told you that life was going to be easy?
To even think for one second that life will not sneak up on you and bite you where the sun does not shine is setting yourself up for a surprise attack that you will be very unarmed to deal with.
A journal about life after 40, including my weight loss struggle; career issues; and whatever else I feel like writing about.
All and all, it’s not so bad getting older. I can think of a lot worse things.
How do you feel about getting older? Is it an emotional roller coaster? What’s your best advise about aging?