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Living In The Shadow Of Myself — Life With Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 31, 2007

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a poem

Although I fight it, it is never far from me, because it is me.

Living with chronic illnesses that ravage my body, and prevent me from being the person I have always wanted to be.

My former self sits in the shadow of these illnesses, weeping with the sad reality that there is no escape from them.

Suffering from debilitating diseases, that are virtually invisible to the outside world, but still hoping someone will see me….here in my own shadow.

But even if someone did open their eyes and see me, it would still be impossible for them to grab onto the hand of my shadow.

So I must learn to live here, living in the shadow of myself, and try to find peace.

also see: living with chronic fatigue syndrome

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 30, 2007

26-Painted Lady Butterfly
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3 TIPS TO BE THE BEST MOM YOU CAN BE — by Catherine Morgan

Being a good mother isn’t always about the kids. A “stressed-out” mother will find it very hard to be a good mother. No matter how much you love your kids, when you are stressed, it is difficult to be the best mother you can be. So, what can you do?

No matter what the age of your child, one or forty-one; follow these tips, and be the best mother you can be. Just remember, that being the best you can be, does not mean you have to be perfect. I will go as far as saying that; if you are trying to be perfect, you are most likely not being the best mother you can be. With that said, here are the three steps, that will help you be the best mom you can be.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 29, 2007

The Goddess
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I will start by giving you the links of the two previous posts on global warming, that combined generated over 80 comments.



Now, in no particular order….links you might find helpful about Global Warming.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 27, 2007


When we are suffering it is very difficult, if not impossible, to see the “light at the end of the tunnel”. But, it is there. You will get through it. And, in time your wounds really will be healed.

Can something good come out of adversity? Often in the face of adversity, we are unable to see anything through our pain. The only thing we can think about, are questions. Why is this happening to me? How will I go on? How will I survive? These are all reasonable questions, and in the depth of your pain you will ask them, and more. But, there are no answers to these questions. Only after you realize this, will you be able to go on, and let go.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 26, 2007


HAS THE WORLD LOST IT’S EMPATHY? — by Catherine Morgan

We all see the news, and feel badly about the wars, the starving, the homeless, the poor, and all the other sad things we are seeing on television. On a smaller scale, we all know people with hardships, going through divorce, struggling with health issues, having financial problems, and many other difficulties affecting our families and neighbors.

When we hear all these stories, we feel great sympathy and sadness. But, I think what we don’t do, is feel empathy. To feel empathy, you have to be able to put yourself in that other person’s shoes, and feel what they must be going through. True compassion comes from a place of empathy, not sympathy. In fact, most people don’t want our sympathy, and I don’t mean that in a disrespectful way. What I am saying is that people don’t want us to feel sorry for them, they want us to have compassion and empathy for them.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 25, 2007

Hilton - Hollywood has excellent Holiday Buffet - All you can eat Shark fin soup; Abalone, Alask
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You heard right. All you can eat. And it’s not a gimmick. How can that be? All you can eat diet? No diet is all you can eat? Well you are right, and wrong. No starvation or quick fix theme diet, is ever going to be an all you can eat starvation diet. And we all know there is no pill or powder that allows you to eat anything you want and still lose weight. So, what exactly is an ALL YOU CAN EAT DIET?

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Women and Heart Disease — Knowing The Facts Could Save Your Life

Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 24, 2007

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You should know that…Women are at a very high risk for heart disease and heart attacks. In fact, heart disease is the leading cause of death among women over 65. American women are 4 to 6 times more likely to die of heart disease than of breast cancer. Women are also less likely to survive a heart attack than a man.

The biggest factors that contribute to heart disease are smoking, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, family history and age. Take some time to look at your lifestyle, family history and your general health. Even though you can’t do much about your family history or your age, you can make lifestyle changes to avoid many of the other risk factors. Here is a list of what doctors recommend:

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 23, 2007

WHO WILL “STAND BY YOU” — by Catherine Morgan

One of my favorite songs to listen to is, “I’ll Stand By You” by the Pretenders. I was listening to it today in the car (while riding home from my mammogram). I began to think about how nice it is to know that someone will “stand by you” no matter what. As a mom, I will “stand by” my kids no matter what…I think they know that (especially since I play the song all the time and tell them). The song always makes me think about how lucky people are when they know (really know) that they have someone who will “stand by them” no matter what.

Sometimes when we are feeling down, and life isn’t going our way, and we feel all alone…..That’s the time we find out who will “stand by us”. It’s sad in a way, that it takes tragedy, or pain to find out who the people in our life are that will “stand by us”, even in our darkest hours. The people who are like angels on earth to us–Connie. The people who were like angels on earth to us–Becky. The people that pick us up when we feel like we are in a never ending free fall of grief–Dawny. The people who save us when we just want to die–Vicki. The people who support us when we can barley support ourselves–Frances Ellen. I feel sad for the people who have perfect lives and never get to really find out who these people are in their lives. It is truly the one great blessing that comes out of our heartache and pain.

Thats all, just something to think about.

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Is The United States Ready For A Woman President?

Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 22, 2007

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As a woman, I want to believe that answer to this question is yes. As an objective observer, I have to wonder. In reading comments on other forums, and listening to the commentary on news programs….There seems to be a lot of hate Hillary banter going on. I don’t have a problem with anyone who dislikes a politician based on their abilities to do the job or their qualifications. However, most of what I have been hearing has less to do with her qualifications, and more to do with her being a woman. Quite frankly, I take offense to it.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 19, 2007


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When we are angry at people in are life. When we aren’t talking to people in our life. When we hate people in our life. When we are doing these things, we are weakening ourselves, we are hurting ourselves, we are hating ourselves. That is because, when we don’t forgive, we are allowing our heart to be weighed down with negativity. But, we already know that. So why do we do it? Why don’t we forgive?

My theory is; that we really don’t know how to forgive. I mean, saying you “forgive” someone, isn’t really “forgiving” them, is it? What if there were actually steps you could take to forgive? Kind of a “12 step” program for forgiveness, only with less steps. See if this works for you. Because, when you forgive someone, you are pushing anger out of your heart and making more room for love to get in, and love is what really matters.

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 18, 2007


3 goddesses

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We all already know we need to get our yearly mammograms. None of us “want” to get it, but we get it anyway because we all know how important early detection is in breast cancer. And, for you women not going that should be: Bad girl! You go and get your mammogram, if the rest of us have to do it, so should you.

I’m NOT going to get into all the reasons we (women of course) need to get a mammogram, that horse has been beaten to death a long time ago. I want to talk about something that we need to do when we get our mammogram, something that the doctors and technicians don’t tell us to do. I’m warning you now, this is going to be hard for most of you.

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Choosing Happiness

Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 17, 2007


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Choosing Happiness — by Catherine Morgan

“Be the change you want to see in the world” Mahatma Gandhi

Are you making significant life decisions from a place of fear or anger? Most of us do. When we make choices and respond to people and situations in our life in reaction to fearful and angry emotions, we are choosing unhappiness. From the little responses and decisions in our life, right up to the big ones. So, who cares? Why does this even matter? I genuinely believe we all want peace in our lives. Peace on earth would be great too. The saying; “Be the change you want to see in the world”, suggests that by making positive changes in our own lives, we contribute to a wave that can flow from us, to our family, to our communities, and to the world. It is such a sweet thought. Even if you don’t believe that minor changes you make in your own life can make a difference in the world, there is no doubt that the way we feel emotionally greatly affects our overall personal happiness.

If we all just took a little stock in our daily reactions, and paid attention to our responses and decisions, and most importantly noticed when we are responding from a place of fear or anger. If we did this, we could then choose to take more time before we respond to such things, and think them through a bit more. Why is this important? Well, it’s important because once you realize what you are doing and how it affects your life, you can then take the steps to make changes that bring you to a more happy and peaceful place. When you catch yourself reacting out of fear or anger, take a minute to think about how you would react to the same situation from a place of peace or love. If you can’t do that, at least try to find a “neutral” feeling and respond from there. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this is an easy thing to do. It is by far, the harder thing to do. But, just try it. Start out by choosing one aspect of your life (ie: work, family, husband, etc.), and consciously decide to take fear and anger out of your decision process and out of your reactions. See how it makes you feel. You will be happier, and the people around you will be happier too. This is because when you react to someone in anger, they will most likely respond back to you in anger. Of course the opposite is also true. If you respond to someone in a kind way, they will most likely respond back to you in a kind way.

Did you ever respond to someone in an angry way just because something else had made you mad? Did you ever wonder how your reaction may have caused that person to react to the next person they encountered? It’s a vicious cycle, but luckily it works both ways. It seems to me, that we are all being a change that can be seen in the world. The question then becomes; are the changes we make affecting the world for better or for worse?

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STARTING YOUR DIET — THE HARDEST PART — Three Easy Steps To Get You Started

Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 16, 2007



I really don’t like the word “dieting”, it sounds too much like the word “depriving”, it feels too much like it too. So, just to get that out of the way….When I say “dieting”, I really mean beginning to eat healthy for your body. I don’t believe in any fad or radical diet plans. Just eating healthy and not eating “junk” foods is usually enough to lose weight at a steady rate and also maintain over time.

That said….Here are the THREE STEPS TO GET STARTED:

STEP ONE — YOUR GOALS (take some time to think about your goals)

The night before you want to begin your diet, go to bed a few minutes early. Get comfortable and let go of any thoughts running through your head. Then close your eyes and start thinking about the foods you are going to eat the next day (healthy foods), and think about the foods your not going to eat (unhealthy foods). Think about your goal weight, how you will look, how you will feel. Do this for about five minutes or so. That’s not too hard?

STEP TWO — YOUR FEELINGS (take some time to think about how you will feel when you reach your goals)

After a few minutes of step one, begin to think about how you will feel after a week of eating healthy and being on your way to your goal weight. You want to have a clear picture in your mind how you will feel when you are successful. The more you think about how your success will make you feel the better. Since our thoughts are directly related to how we feel, and how we feel is directly related to our eating habits….You can see why it is so important to focus on what you are thinking at this critical point of your diet plan. For more on this check out this post How changing your belief system can change your life

STEP THREE — PRETENDING (telling yourself you are already successful)

Next, after another few minutes just add into your thoughts the idea that you are already at that place. That you are already successful. That it’s been a week and you are feeling great. It’s been a week and now looking back you can see it wasn’t as hard as you thought it would be. You feel proud of yourself and feel confident that you will be able to continue your healthy eating habits for at least another week. Even though you will know that you haven’t actually been on your diet for a week yet, believe it or not…..Your thoughts will translate into feelings, and your feelings will help you create a sense of success.

The biggest stumbling block in a diet is getting past those first few days. Getting motivated to start is easy, staying motivated is the problem. I found that the best way to stay motivated is to get over the proverbial “hump”, those first few days that if you don’t pass are the sole reason 99% of us will just “give up”, quit and consider ourselves a failure at the diet before we even had a chance to get stared. And that is what STEP THREE is all about.

So, take another minute or two and think some more about how you will feel. And this is important…..Do NOT put any “negative” thoughts in you head at this time, if you feel them coming, consciously let them leave your thoughts and go back to your “successful” thoughts. It’s almost like a quick little meditation.

NOW, YOU ARE STARTED. When you wake up in the morning, know you have already been successful, now you just have to continue your success by continuing to eat healthy. It’s easy now, because you know you can do it. Keep yourself motivated with your feelings of accomplishment. Take one day at a time. And each night reflect on your success. Most of all. If you falter, it is not a failure…..just begin at step one, and get back on the wagon as soon as possible.

“Every thought we think is creating our future.” — Louise L. Hay

Good Luck!

ALSO SEE: Six Tips To Help You Get Started Eating A Healthy Diet

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Posted by Catherine Morgan on January 15, 2007

Gift cards have done for the shopping, what channel changers did for the television. For the younger generation, who may not remember the days of having to get off the couch to change the channel on your television, the gift card is doing for the shopper, what the Wireless Internet has done for the lap-top. Another words, we lived without gift cards before, but we could never go back to the dark days of no gift cards now. There is just no turning back.

It is clear, that gift cards have changed the face of shopping for the better. No more wasting time and energy trying to find a “thoughtful” gift for someone. Just get them a gift card and you’re all set. Everyone is happy, both the gifter and the gifted. And gone are the days of “re-gifting” and the “re-gifter”. In the future, our grand-kids will be watching re-runs of “Seinfeld” in total confusion.

We can not live without gift cards. We all love them. We all buy them. We all use them. Those are just the facts. But, what are the politics? The politics are the “dark-side” of the gift card industry, or what “they” don’t want you to know.

Let me be serious for a minute, after all I did call this post “A SERIOUS LOOK AT THE POLITICS OF GIFT CARDS”. Gift cards are a multi-billion dollar industry. This year consumers will spend more than twenty-five billion dollars in gift cards, but an estimated five to twenty-five percent of these cards will never be used. Leaving the companies to profit enormously, without lifting a finger. According to a recent AP report, Best Buy reported a 43 million dollar profit from cards that were purchased but not used in the last two years. And they are not alone. Millions of us receive gift cards during the holidays, and many of us will never use them.

As consumers we can not let this continue. It is our responsibility to use these gift cards and not allow companies to profit from literally selling us nothing. Since most of these companies have web-sites for at home shopping, I would suggest using them as soon as possible so you don’t forget.

So, go check your desk drawer and your wallet right now, get on-line, and use that card. Don’t let it go unused. And if you really aren’t going to use it, consider donating it to a charity or needy person in your neighborhood.

Let’s stop giving hand-outs to multi-billion dollar companies, when we have over 744,000 homeless people in our country.


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